The Good, The Bad, and The Hilarious of Parenting

Moved To Self-Hosting Site — whatsupyournose.com

I have had an amazing time learning how to blog at wordpress and have decided to continue with my blog but on a self-hosted site which will give me more control.  I do hope that you will visit my parenting blog at whatsupyournose.com

I would love your continued support, comments, ideas, and suggestions.  See you there!


10 Incredible Reasons To Have Children

If I would have known then what I know now about having children ….

  1. I would never again go to the bathroom alone!
  2. SpongeBob SquarePants

    SpongeBob SquarePants (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

    I would come to think of Sponge Bob Squarepants, iCarly, and Good Luck Charlie as actual comedy.

  3. That staying up past 9:00 PM is a wild night.
  4. That chicken nuggets and french fries would qualify as a gourmet meal.
  5. That I would sing and clap when someone took a “poo-poo” — “You went poo-poo.  You did a doo-doo.  It makes me happy when you go poo-poo!” (Really, I sing that!)
  6. Sleeping past 7:00 AM is sleeping in.
  7. That Kids Bop and The Disney Channel would be jammin’.
  8. That macaroni necklaces are more precious than diamonds.
  9. That a birthday party for a 5 year old would be the most happening event of the year.
  10. That my life would never be mine again, and I wouldn’t change it for the world.

I would do it all over again in a heartbeat.  I love my babies!


Turning 6 — The Baby’s Birthday — A Mother’s Reflection (Again)

Birthdays are bittersweet for moms.  You want to celebrate the joy of the new life you helped bring into this world on that special day, but at the same time, you mourn that your babies are growing up and your role in life is changing.  Both of my beautiful daughters are born in July; so, while it is a joyous month, it is also a month in which I do a lot of reflection.

July 25, 2006 — I had been in labor for about 24 hours, and my doctor kept telling me I was experiencing Braxton-Hicks contractions because my contractions weren’t regular, but Ik new differently.  Finally, after a hot shower, my contractions started at 3 minutes apart regularly.  It happened so fast — Terry and my stepson drove me to the hospital at about 90 mph while I screamed.  They wheeled me into the labor and delivery room; I stood up; my water broke; and 45 minutes later she was here.  It happened so fast, and I experienced every second of her birth because I was too far along in labor to get the epideral and because I had been in labor (pain) for 24 hours I was slightly dehydrated and they couldn’t even get an IV to give me pain meds.  I think that is how Fa wanted it — she wanted me to experience every second.  Her way of saying, “Savour every minute — the good and the bad because life is too short to gloss over anything.”  This is still her approach to life 6 years later.

Fa is my youngest, and I still baby her way too much even though she will be 6, but it is hard to know that the “baby” phase of motherhood is almost over.  I cling to Fa because she represents for me all that is free and beautiful in this world.

After Terry and I had been married for two years, we decided we wanted a baby, and he really wanted a little girl.  I was 33 when the plan formed, and I clearly stated that if I wasn’t pregnant by the time I was 35 I wasn’t going to get pregnant simply because I didn’t want to be “too old.”   We tried for over a year with no luck.  I began seeing a specialist and began taking medication to help us along in the process.  One morning as I was praying, I asked for God’s will to be done.  I told him that I was going to turn this over to him, and if he wanted to bless us with a baby, he would and if he didn’t, then I would accept his decision.  I stopped taking the medicine, and two weeks later I was pregnant.  You may say it was the medicines that was still in my system, but I say it was God’s blessing!  Did I mention it was 4 months before my 35th birthday!?

I named my precious gift Linda Faith.  Linda is my mother’s name. I wanted to honor the woman who had stood by me and supported me and loved me through everything; I also wanted to honor God.  I named her Faith because without faith it is impossible to please God.  In the first verse of Hebrews it says, “Now Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.”  And that is what my Faith is to me — the evidence of things not seen — love, hope, trust, etc.

Fa is the glue that holds this family together.  We have the “his,” “mine,” and “ours” syndrome going on.  Terry has Austin from his first marriage, and I have K from my ex.  In the beginning, it was easy to separate into teams — us against them, but after Fa came along, we bonded more as a family.  Austin and K have a sister that they share together, and let me tell you, Fa loves her Bubbie and her Sissy!!  Terry and I have Fa together which made us grow closer.  So, there is no longer the us against them — it is simply US!!

Fa is my spit-fire!  She is free-spirited and funny and creative.  She is everything I am not!  Sometimes I wish I could be more like her because she milks life for everything it is worth.  She reminds me to slow-down a bit, to laugh more, and to not take myself so seriously.  I love her immensely!!

I have a special song that I say is “our” song.  It is “Smile” by Uncle Kracker:


One Lovely Blog Award!


I am honored that others read my blog, and I hope that it makes you laugh at times and maybe cry at others because the good Lord knows that parenting is not easy!  Please take a moment to get to know me below with my 7 interesting facts and then check out these other amazing blogs!
Rules of acceptance: Thank the person/people who nominated you and link back to them in your post. Share seven possibly unknown things about yourself. Nominate fifteen or so bloggers you admire. Contact the chosen bloggers to let them know and link back to them.

1.  I am a Pepsi addict. To me, nothing is better than the bite of a ice cold Pepsi in the morning!

2. My feelings get hurt really easy.  I often internalize what people say even in a joking manner!

3. I want a mini cow to go with the pet goat that I want.  I think it will be a great addition to my 2 chickens!

4.  My dream is to set foot on every continent before I die.

5. I love to watch my children sleep.  Even though they are 15 and 5, I still lay my hand on them to feel them breath while they sleep.  How I will miss that when they are grown and gone.

6. I have become more ‘traditional’ with each year I age.

7.  I never really believed that anyone would actually read my blog.

Other blogs that deserve attention:

1. Hurdles to Happiness

2. Nicole White Speaks

3. All That Makes You

4. Colddead’s Heart Blog

5. Health Demystified

6. Soup To Nuts

7. What I Meant To Say

8. Wonderfully Wired

9. Somewhat Muddled Musings

10. International Homemaker

11. Homemaker Chic

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Sweet 16 – A Mother’s Reflection

July 16, 1996 — I entered Henrico Doctor’s Hospital nervous and excited.  My labor was being induced that day.  I was getting ready to be a mother for the first time, and I didn’t know if I was having a boy or a girl.

IT’S A GIRL!  K came into this world quietly foreshadowing her approach to life.  She didn’t kick or scream or give me any problems during birth.  She simply appeared and quietly made the statement that she was here changing lives forever!  When they placed her in my arms, and she gazed at me intently, I realized that I would never make a decision without considering her well being and that my life was no longer my own.

July 16, 2012 — My baby is turning 16 today.  She is over in Greece celebrating with her friends and exploring the world.  As most parents do, I look around her room and see her ipod, makeup, and softball gear and wonder at what point did I miss this transition from baby to young woman.  I only blinked once!

Being her mother is my most treasured role and accomplishment.  She is a beautiful soul who teaches me so much about life by just being herself.  K and I grew up together!  I was a single mother pretty much from the time she was born until I meet my current husband when K was 7 years old.  We were buddies!  I always wanted to be a positive role model for her, but I have to say she has become my role model!

K is strong, focused, motivated, kind, caring, and generous.  She has overcome the burden of having 2 households that didn’t always get along, of having siblings that are as much as 10 years younger than her, and of  defining herself in a trying world.  I learn so very much about life from K.  Trust me, we have our arguments but after the dust settles, there is another lesson I can put down in the books because what she is teaching me are things within myself that I still need to work through.

The relationship between a mother and daughter can range greatly.  I am first her mother!  Being friendly is an extra bonus.  Being her friend is not my priority.  I strive to provide K with the best foundation of information and experience possible.  She is quickly approaching adulthood.  The goal is for K to be a self sufficient, financially independent, healthy and happy woman.  That means I must be her mother first!  She most likely will not understand or be excited about the decisions I make when it comes to privileges or life decisions.  That is okay with me, because I have to do what I believe is the very best for her at the time.

Our relationship continues to evolve.  As I was teaching her to drive, I would look over and see a 5 year old much like that commercial for Subaru.

I ach for my baby and cheer for the woman she is becoming.

As a result of being a mother, my love and understanding for my parents has grown immensely!  I realize that much of what I choose to do today for K may not be understood until she is a mother with a teenage daughter.  I have called my mother to apologize for my behavior as a child/teenager multiple times.  I am greeted with laughter, love and reassurance.  I will be there to do the same for K.

In honor of K’s birthday, I have posted a video of what I say is “Our” song!!  Since, I was a single mother waking up to K each day was a gift.  So, this is “our” song:


It Finally Happened — The First Official Date

For two long years, I have been the taxi for my daughter and her first boyfriend.  Yes, I know — they have been dating for two years — since the 8th grade which is an extremely long time.  I give a little bit of background about these love bugs in the post “As Long As They Make You Happy.”  Now understand I use the term dating lightly here because does it really count as a date when your mom or dad is driving you around?  Well, those young kids have grown into young adults, and he now has his licenses.

This past Sunday, K popped the dreaded question, “Can [he] take me to Kings Dominion on Monday?”  I kind of fell back a little as if she had slapped me and then I made her repeat the question.  I thought to myself that surely she means that his parents would be taking them just like all the times before.  So, I ask, “Who will be driving?  His mom or dad?” K turned her head slightly sideways like a confused puppy, “No, Mom.  He was going to drive me.  That is if you let him.”  There was no more pretending.  She was asking what I thought she was asking — she wanted me to put her in a car with THAT BOY and allow him to drive her 20 minutes to the local theme park where they could “hang out” and then bring her back home.  I knew exactly how to handle that — I called her father and asked him!

The minute K’s dad answered the phone I burst into tears.  He began screaming, “WHAT IS WRONG?  REGINA, TELL ME WHAT IS GOING ON?”  After I informed him of what his daughter had asked me, I cried even harde,r and he went silent.  We were in shock.  Now he and I haven’t been a couple since K was a baby, but we share a deep love for that amazing baby that still holds us together as co-parents.  In my tears and in his silence, we both knew that our life would never be the same again.  He quickly came to his senses though and told me not to worry…  I looked at K and smiled and said, “Of course you can go!”  A huge smile filled her face.   I followed with,  “Your dad is off and will follow you.”  She screamed, “NOOOOOOOOOOOOO MOMMY!!  THIS ISN’T FAIR!  WHY DON’T YOU TRUST ME?”

That is when it dawned on me.  She thought this was about her.  I mean yea it was her date — her first official date, and yes, I did promise to embarrass her by having her father follow her, but couldn’t she see this was not about her!  This was about me!  With her one simple question, I was bombarded with feelings of sadness, loneliness, and emptiness.  I know pretty selfish, right?  However, at that moment, I didn’t care because I felt that no one could understand the depths of my love for her.  Being her mother helped to make me feel complete.  K had become my inspiration in so many ways.  I didn’t know you could love someone so much, but in her perfect innocence, she made me a better person.  Only K and Fa will ever know the strength of my love because they are the only ones who know what my heart sounds like on the inside!

After I expressed my fears and my love for her and explained that I did trust her but mommy had some growing up to do, we laid out the ground rules for the “first date.”  On the day of said date, I had a long talk with the both of them about buckling up, staying focused on driving, and being home before dark.  Then I looked at him with tears streaming down my face and said, “Please take care of my baby girl.”  He looked very serious when he responded that he would as if he understood my love for her!!  Is that possible?

As that white Ford Ranger backed out of my driveway and headed down the road, I sat on my front porch and rocked and cried — I cried for the young woman my baby had become, and I cried for the new person I have to become.  Once again in her perfect innocence, K has helped me to become a new person!


Burned Biscuits

My mom sent me this email, and it filled my bucket. So, I thought I would share it with you.  I do not know who the author is but I don’t take any credit.

When I was a kid, my mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then.  And I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work.  On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage, and extremely burned biscuits in front of my dad.  I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed!

Yet all my dad did was reach for his biscuit, smile at my mom and ask me how my day was at school.  I don’t remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that ugly burned biscuit.  He ate every bite of that thing…never made a face nor uttered a word about it!

When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the biscuits.  And I’ll never forget what he said, “Honey, I love burned biscuits every now and then.”

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night, and I asked him if he really liked his biscuits burned.  He wrapped me in his arms and said, “Your momma put in a hard day at work today, and she’s real tired.  And besides – a little burned biscuit never hurt anyone!”

As I’ve grown older, I’ve thought about that many times.  Life is full of imperfect things and imperfect people.  I’m not the best at hardly anything, and I forget birthdays and anniversaries just like everyone else.  But what I’ve learned over the years is that learning to accept each other’s faults – and choosing to celebrate each others differences – is one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship.

And that’s my prayer for you today… that you will learn to take the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of your life and lay them at the feet of God.  Because in the end, he’s the only one who will be able to give you a relationship where a burnt biscuit isn’t a deal-breaker!

We could extend this to any relationship.  In fact, understanding is the base of any relationship, be it a husband-wife or parent-child or friendship!

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Spring Break Is Over

Tonight (Sunday April 15, 2012) is the last night of our Spring Break, and I have to say we are all a bit gloomy.  We have had soooo much fun together.  I really do love spending time with my family, and we had fun this week.  Here is a recap in pictures.

We started on Saturday April 7, 2012 with a family Easter Egg Hunt at my mom’s house — Nana’s and Papa’s Annual Easter Egg Hunt features 190 eggs for 4 kids to find and about 100 lbs of candy!!

Did you notice my Fa wearing my snow boots?  She has her own style.  It was also my brother’s and sister-in-law’s anniversary!!  It was just an all around good day with the family.  I did miss my K who went to the beach with her dad.

Then on Tuesday April 10, I took Fa and my niece to go see the movie Mirror, Mirror.

The girls came home and played and it was just a great day.

Then the next day Wednesday April 11, Fa and I went to the movies with my niece and nephew to see The Lorax which was great.  We enjoyed some Sweet Frog frozen yogurt which my adorable nephew calls Happy Frog which works because we were happy!  I love to spend time with them and wish we could do it more often!

Fa and I went from Sweet Frog over to the mall and enjoyed some of the festivities over there.  First they had a petting zoo

Second was making a wish —

The day ended with a train ride — it was a tiny train, but Fa loved it.

Thursday and Friday we hung at home which Fa loves because she can just PLAY!  We did go to the library for a few hours on Thursday.  Then on Saturday, K, Fa, me, T, and K’s boyfriend went to our local theme park Kings Dominion.  We had a good time riding rides and laughing.

The night ended with an impromptu cookout with my crew and my brother’s crew and another cousin and aunt showed up as well.  We laughed so hard my stomach hurt and my husband said he had a headache!!  I love getting sick off of happiness!

Then today, I spent time with K going to see the Hunger Games, visiting my mom, and taking some batting practice.  Needless to say, we aren’t looking forward to school tomorrow, but we have to do what we have to do, and I can smell summer around the corner.  Any thought of teaching summer school is out the window if Spring Break was a preview of what is to come!  Thank you God!


I Won The Kreative Blogger Award!!

Earlier this week, I accepted my nomination for The Versatile Blogger  Award.  I am super excited to announce that I have also been nominated for the Kreative Blogger Award!!  Special thanks to Hurdles To Happiness   for the nomination!!  I highly recommend this blog to you.  The tag line says: Helping Views Overcome Daily Obstacles And Ultimately Achieve Happiness!!  Now who doesn’t need that kind of help!!

After doing some research on this award, I’ve come to find that it comes with the following rules:

1. You must thank the person who has given you the award.
2. Copy the logo and place it on your blog.
3. Link the person who has nominated you for the award.
4. Name 7 things about yourself that people might find interesting.
5. Nominate 7 other Kreativ Bloggers.
6. Post links to the 7 blogs you nominate.
7. Leave a comment on which of the blogs to let them know they have been nominated.

So, 7 random/interesting things about me:

  1. I self diagnosed myself with a minor case of OCD.  I mentally divide my mouth into 4 sections, and I count to 30 as I brush each section.  I have a few other weird habits, but I will keep those to myself.
  2. Someone once told me that my curly girly handwriting was an indicator that I had a criminal mind!
  3. I have been the same height since the 8th grade.
  4. My favorite food is my mom’s spaghetti.
  5. I want to learn to knit.
  6. I have a fetish for office supplies.
  7.  I love teaching because I get to be an “actress” in my own production!
Now, it’s time to nominate another 7 deserving bloggers and pass off the torch or this Kreativ Blogger Award. I would like to nominate the following bloggers who have recently caught my attention:
  1. danny the puppet ~~  Yes there is actually a puppet that produces this blog!
  2. stuff kids write ~~ This is a shoot and being a teacher and a parent I fell in love immediately.
  3. Meanderings of A Restless Mind ~~ This blog really makes me look at life differently and well, sometimes makes me feel normal!!
  4. Beautiful Disasters ~~ If you know me, you know I can not cook.  This blog makes me lick my computer screen!!
  5. Almost Naked Housework ~~ OK the title grabbed my attention first, but then I loved the variety of content on this blog.
  6. ipinterest ~~ Just a very creative blog.
  7. live, love, lesbian ~~ This blog has A 100 Days of Love going on and I have to say on several days it has moved me to action!
Congratulations everyone!  Check out these great blogs and everyone will be a winner!

What Am I Thankful For Right Now

This week in general has been a blessing for me.  Maybe it is because we are all just getting over the stomach bug and pink eye and other illnesses or maybe it is because the weather is warmer and the sun is up longer, but whatever the reason, I want to take a moment and recognize my blessings.

So, what am I thankful for right now?

-The warm embrace of the sun.

-The ping of the softball bat.

-The giggles of Fa on the swing set.

-The smell of laundry straight off the line.

-Sweet ice tea (no sodas in 2 weeks for me!!!)

Pitcher of Iced Tea with a Glass of Ice Tea.

Sweet southern tea!

My oldest daughter asking me to snuggle with her

A loving husband that puts up with my craziness!

-A fantastic mother that always has my back!

-The best damn in-laws anyone could have wished for!

-A brother that can always make me laugh

-An extremely smart step-son who will achieve great things in life!

-I am thankful for all of the mistakes I made in life that brought to where I am today!

Thank you God!

What are you thankful for?


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